81. Domestic affairs
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Are you a domesticated spouse? Do you take part in the domestic work in the house? or do you leave it to your wife always? You should give respect to your wife if she is the only one doing it because it is a lot of hard work. Complement her because it's not always an easy job. You can give her helping hands over the weekend. But once in while, take part in domestic work to add value to your union and even make your children respect you and learn from you.
82. Personal hygiene
Mouth care, polished shoe, tidy house. These are important for your well-being and those around you. Personal hygiene of both spouses is of great importance. If not taken care of, it could be a turn-of. It can affect the relationship between the man and his wife, and cause conflict and embarrassment. It could also cause health challenges, sexually transmitted diseases, communicable diseases, etc.
83. Looks and External Attraction
You need to be well groomed. Because you never know where opportunity will meet you. You may lose an opportunity and be looked down on by people if you are dress roughly. It doesn't mean you should be overdressed. But your hair, mustache, and body should be taken care of. As a lady, be moderate. Avoid attracting too much attention when you dress to expose your body. Just be modest in your dress sense.
84. Extra Marital Affairs
Do you or your spouse partake in extra marital affairs? Are there underlying reasons? Is your spouse no longer attractive to you? Are you selling your body to sustain yourself? Is your libido much more than that of your spouse? Is it an inherent problem with you? Do you fornicate and commit adultery? Are you being blackmailed? Does your spouse deny you of sex? Do you indulge in pornography? Will you seek help? Are you aware of consequences? Or do you readily justify your doings?
85. Domestic Violence And Abuse
Do you partake in domestic violence? Are you a victim of it? Does it come in different forms? Physical, psychological, verbal, spiritual? Do you do anything about it? Are you afraid of possible consequences? Do you require help? Do you search for help? Could it destroy you? As well as your family? Are there better alternatives, than living with it? Is there a history, which currently manifests itself? Could you confide in a friend? Or a suitable other? Could you seek a divorce? Or something better? Could you work with your spouse, for the betterment of all? Could you involve the police? And the legal system? Could it be a case of trouble? Frying pan to fire? Or are you better off just praying? For a solution to your troubles.
86. Parenting style
Different people have different parenting styles. Some believe in using the rod to beat the children. Some, in shouting at or even cursing them. Some use positive psychology or even reward as a parenting style. You should understand that in some countries, if you are too hard on your children in your parenting style, you may get into trouble. So, you need to draw the right balance. You may employ persuasive psychology. Communicate with them why you want them to do what you want and let them express their opinion. They may not get it the first time. Communication and manner of presentation is very important.
87. Educational choices for children
Growing up, it was part of the norm to be either an Engineer, a Doctor or a Lawyer. Though I qualified as an engineer, I do not practice engineering. In my opinion, I don't believe in parents forcing their kids to study a course they have no flair for. You may guide the child, but at the end of the day, look for the child's area of strength and see if that area can serve as a source of income. Don't force it because they may become unfulfilled. Doing what they love to do makes them fulfilled and more successful. Encourage them and seek guidance on how to go about their educational choices. Guide them. Do not force them.
88. Accommodation
You should do your due diligence when seeking accommodation. If you are okay living in a flat, or you plan to build your house. Ensure it is close to where your conveniences are. It shouldn't be too far from your office and even the schools of your children. If otherwise, you spend a lot of energy and money on transportation alone. This leaves you with being stressed and burnt out. The environment should be an enabling one for the children to learn. Ensure it is affordable. You could negotiate with a land owner to actually compare your price with what other tenants are paying so you don't get cheated. While doing that, you may begin to save money either to build your house or buy one.
89. Digital addiction by children
As a matter of fact, it is not only children that have digital addiction. These days, you find adults glued to their phones with little quality time for their families. Digital devices can serve a great advantage. However, it reduces the quality of time and communication with your family. The children could even go astray when they are manipulated or extorted by hoodlums online. It is necessary to draw the right balance. You should get monitoring application to monitor what your children watch online so they don't get into trouble. You may, at certain period, shut down the media for them maybe for few hours or days. Another thing about digital addiction is that it does not allow you or your children to think much. These days, the phone has made it easy and the children are over reliant on the digital device. No time to think or memorise where necessary because there is a digital device to do that for them.
90. Complementary education for children
There's a need for complementary education for the children. This could include culinary skills, leadership skills, spirituality, culture, etc. The education system may not teach your children everything they need to become successful. Hence, your duty to get them complementary skills.
Thank you very much for your time.
This is Jack Lookman signing off. Ire o (I wish you blessings)
Ire kabiti (I wish you loads of blessings).
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