241. Do You Divulge Or Keep Family Secrets?
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We’re all imperfect beings; with shortcomings and secrets.
We have questionable pasts, which we’ll love to forget.
For some, there secrets are concealed. While for others, may be not so.
If you’re privileged to know some secrets; will you keep mute and preserve the honour?
Or will you go forth, spreading it like the wind, with little or none, to benefit therefrom?
242. Are You Abusive To Your Spouse And Children?
Do you abuse them? Do you do this regularly? Physically and verbally? Spiritually and morally?
Do they always long to be away from you, because you never make them happy?
Does the pronouncement of your name, or indeed your presence; Bring a lot of sadness to them?
Is this something you do, consciously or otherwise?
Do you do this, because of your presumed power and authority?
Do you reflect on the time, when this will disappear?
Could you change your ways and behaviour? For the betterment of all?
Or your ways are always best; the best all and end all.
243. Are Children Assets Or Liabilities?
Do you view children as assets or liabilities? Are they blessings from the Creator? Do they support with domestic chores? Are they support systems for ill health or old age? Could they help with business and other pursuits? Could they be a force for focus? Could they be your joy and pride? Could they add value to society? And so on and so forth?
Or could they be none at all? And just necessary others.
244. Do You Distance Yourself From In-Laws?
Are you one of those who don’t get along with in-laws? Either for pre-conceived reasons, or for practical reasons?
Do you get along with any of them, or is it neither of them? Is the problem with you? Or is it with them?
Will you make efforts to build bridges? Or do you prefer to build fences?
Do you consider the impact on the children? And may be generations unborn.
Could you get mediators? Or you don’t wish to toe that line?
Is this also your stance with friends? Those of you and your spouse?
Is the problem with everyone? Or is it with you?
Could you live a secluded life? Or do you need people?
Give your self some food for thought, and reflect on better ways.
245. If Your Children Are Always At Loggerheads
If your children are regularly at loggerheads, do you take sides unfairly? Do you judge each conflict on merit? Do you put systems and structures in place to minimise conflict? Do you incentivise them on conflict-free weeks? Do you counsel them accordingly? Do you get them usefully engaged? Do you seek external help? Do you explore ways and means? Do you allow healthy conflict? Do you spend time and effort managing conflicts?
When your children are at loggerheads-heads, what do you do?
246. Does Your Family Socialise?
Is your family sociable? Do you teach that to your children? Are there benefits in being sociable? Will you rather remain in your island? If you require help or support, could others come to your heed? If you attend functions of others, could they replicate? If you can’t be bothered about others, could they return the same? Does socialising have pros and cons? Could you focus on the pros? Are you too shy to socialise? Could you get better with time? If it becomes burdensome, could you pick and choose? Is socialising a worthwhile option? Or you’d choose seclusion?
247. If Your Child Underperforms At School
If your child underperforms, will you look at underlying reasons? Could it be due to bullying at school? Could he be unhappy? Could the environment not suit him? Could his talents and abilities be outside mainstream education? Could you invest in a Tutor for him? Could you interview him to find out his difficulties? Could you find him a peer coach? Could you incentivize him to learn? Could he be moving with the wrong company? Could you research best practice in dealing with this? Will you give up after a little effort? Will you give him corporate punishment? Will you continually embarrass him? Will you force him against his will? Could you force the horse to drink at the river? Could you encourage him with his interests? Could you find him a suitable Mentor?
If your child underperforms, what will you do?
248. If Your Child Steals
If you have a child, who is never content. Ever wanting more. And never satisfied. To satisfy his wants, and to feed his greed. He starts to steal, in and out of home.
How will you deal with this?
Will your strain your health, just to satisfy him? Will you multiply your income, hoping to meet his wants? Will you counsel him, on the realities of life? Will you expose him, to those really in need? Will you let him work, and have a taste of earning? Will you broadcast his weakness, to every one and all? Will you research a solution, from people of wisdom? Will you sell all you have, just to make him happy?
Whatever be your decision, does this solve the problem?
Is there really an answer, blowing in the wind?
249. How will you manage multiple births?
Sometimes, spouses make great plans. Including the number of children. And they plan it all, forgetting their imperfections.
What if you planned for one kid; but God gives multiple. If you had 3 or 4, or may be 5 or more? What will you do? Will you abandon them? Will you seek support? Will you research best practices? Will you be thankful? Will you explore multiple income? Will you plan for this? Could it be plan b or c? Or it could never happen? Definitely not to you.
What will you do?
250. Will You Insist On Marrying A Virgin?
Most men desire to marry virgins. Spouses who have yet been touched. But the reality is that they’re extremely rare. If at all they are.
Will you insisting on marrying a virgin? And spend a lifetime searching for one? Or will you make do with what you have? Making the best of a bad situation.
In any case are you one? Will you start from there? Or that rule for the goose, isn’t applicable to the gander?
Thank you very much for your time.
This is Jack Lookman signing off. Ire o (I wish you blessings)
Ire kabiti (I wish you loads of blessings).
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