271. If You Child Becomes Disobedient Or Unruly?
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If your child regularly misbehaves. If he disregards your authority, or becomes a Lord to himself.
How will you react?
Will you pray for guidance and patience? Will you send him out of the house? Will you starve him of food and money? Will you employ persuasive psychology? Will you counsel him? Will you get your spouse to talk to him? Will you get the Religious Cleric involved? Will you tell your story to the world? Will you deal with the matter with maturity and compassion? Will you increase his pocket money? Will you get his friends to counsel him? Will you become physical or abusive? Will your actions be positive or negative? Will the outcomes stand the test of time?
What will you do?
272. Are You A Compulsive Critic?
Humans, are presumably imperfect. Despite their best efforts, the imperfection will show.
When you find lapses or imperfections, do you continually criticise? Are you someone who keeps searching for imperfection in others? Do you never acknowledge any good? Are you the perfect creation? One without any faults?
Is it a better idea to correct and encourage? Rather than find faults now and forever?
Acknowledging the effort put into things? Rather than finding flaws in everything.
273. How Will You Manage Life’s Trials And Tribulations?
Life generally presents trials and tribulations. These come in different sizes, shapes and colors. It also comes in different portions for different people and situations. It’s presumably one of the certainties of life, which is never a straight line graph.
If life throws these at you, your marriage, and family; how will you manage them?
Will you pray for wisdom, strength, etc? Will you take proactive measures to fight them? Will you pass the buck to others for solutions? Will you research, with the aim of finding a solution? Will you seek counsel from significant others? Or will you sit and do nothing, hoping the tide passes?
274. Will You Be Competitive Or Supportive?
Will you support your spouse? Or will it be competition? Will you work together? To achieve the desired goals? Will you rather compete? Just to prove a point? Living the life without happiness, so we know you can.
275. When The Chips Are Down
Life throws many challenges, to whoever be. It may be loss of life, loss of income or loss of good health. It may be loss of property or whatever be it.
When the chips are down; will you still be there? Or will you find the flimsiest of reasons, just to fly away.
276. If Your Marriage Becomes Rocky
If your marriage starts to rock, foundations heavily shaken.
If the centre no longer holds, lots of arguments and fights.
If the love that used to blossom, is now nowhere to be found.
If the everything you had, has now become nothing.
Will you continue the journey?
Would it be in any interest?
Or will you continue in misery and sadness, until death do you part?
277. Is There Anything Wrong In Throwing Parties?
Being sociable is apparently a good thing. Some throw birthday parties, graduation parties, etc. Some throw them once in a while. Others throw them frequently. And some don’t throw at all.
Before you join the bandwagon, could you evaluate your reasons? Is it just to show off? Is it to show gratitude? Is it because others do so? Or is it for no particular reason?
Can you really afford it? Could the money be put to better use? Could you reduce the frequency? Could you save for rainy days? Could you empower poor family and friends? Could you add value to society? Or will you enjoy today, for you know not tomorrow.
278. Do You Empower Your Family?
As the family heads, the guardians and custodians. All may be well today, without any knowing tomorrow.
If your tomorrow fails to come, and your family is wholly dependent on you. Would you have done justice, by empowering them?
Teaching them to be self sufficient. And also with relevant skills.
Teaching them resourcefulness, as well as spirituality.
Teaching them how to research, on the internet.
Teaching them how to prepare, well ahead of rainy days.
Laying strong foundations for tomorrow, if or when you’re gone.
Continuing the journey of life, as best as possible.
279. Roles Of Family Members
The father is generally the head of the family as well as the bread winner. He’s also the spiritual head of the family. He’s a beacon of support in times of great need. He’s the moral strength with loads of wisdom. He protects his family in times of need. He’s the role model for his children admire.
The mother is traditionally the custodian of the home. She cares for the children as well as the home. She’s a supportive figure for her husband. She guides the children in their ways. She protects the wealth of her husband. And is a voice of reason when difficulty approaches. She’s a welcoming soul after the husband’s labour. Together they raise generations.
The children are generally obedient to parents. Trying their best not to be offensive. They learn wise words and doings. Supporting the parents as well. They help with domestic chores and so on. They get well educated from school. They also learn other ways, which only parents could teach.
280. Are You Better Off Married Or Single?
Have you given some thought, to whether you have any business being married?
Are you someone who loves your company? And very intolerant of others? Are you self centered? Thinking about you alone? Do you dislike the cries of babies? And cannot tolerate children? Are you intolerant of the opposite sex? Lived your life only with same sex? Are you impatient with others? And very idealistic? You cannot sacrifice your time? And neither your emotions? You are not sociable? A complete introvert? You don’t accommodate other opinions? It’s your way, and only your way? You are rigid in your ways, and can’t accommodate compromise? You will not go the extra mile, you can’t be stressed? You don’t enjoy sex, you have too much work to do? You are not compassionate, you have targets to meet?
If this is your persona, then may be marriage isn’t for you.
Thank you very much for your time.
This is Jack Lookman signing off. Ire o (I wish you blessings)
Ire kabiti (I wish you loads of blessings).
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