301. How will you manage financial gifts for the children?
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From time to time, children shall be given financial gifts. This could be directly to them, or through the parents. Either way, the parents become the custodians of the financial or other gifts, which come from birthday celebrations or other occasions.
With the financial gift in your possession, how do you manage it. Do you give it to the child? Do you spend it on the child? Do you spend it for the family? Do you squander it? Do you give it out in charity? Do you spend it on yourself? Do you save it? Do you invest it? Or do you buy food and drink?
How do you manage your children’s financial gifts? Is it wisely? Or foolishly?
302. Could That Marriage Dissolution Impact The Children?
As a stakeholder in marriages, or as officers of law, who take decisions. Do you consider the children, who may be the victims of dissolution? Could you put your ego on hold, and weigh the consequences? Could you think about 20 or 30 years, when the children become adults? Could you think of legacy, and their thoughts towards you? Will you do your utmost, to make the union work? Or will you give up at the simplest excuse? Will you carry out due diligence, just for the best? And reap unending rewards for the rest of time?
303. If Life Becomes Overwhelming
If life becomes unbearingly overwhelming. If your everything becomes nothing. If calamity befalls you. One bad luck after the other. As you one problem, others begin to surface. As you make money, it’s consumed in challenges. Just as you begin to rest, it’s one problem after the other.
As you seek the truth, so do you become blinded. As you try your best, so do you get drowned. The problems never ending, just changes from one to another.
Could you explore your spirituality? Could it help calm the storms? Could you explore mindfulness, reflecting on life and beyond? Could you reflect on sufferers, those apparently worse than you. Could you give thanks and praises, for all that you presumably own? Could you reset your mindset, to one of gratitude? Could you engage in charity, both in cash and kind? Could this make a difference, reducing your perceived woes? Could life be much better, or could it be much worse? Will you give thanks and praises, for everything that comes your way?
May be, just may be, that could reduce your pain and sorrow.
304. In Whose Interest Is Divorce Or Separation?
Are there any benefits in breaking the union? Is it for the best? Is it to prevent abuse and catastrophe? Is it irreconcilable? Could both parties make amends? Is it for selfish reasons? Is it the best possible outcome? Will it benefit anyone? Will it benefit the children? Could you be moving ‘from frying pan to fire?’ Could it be prevented? Was your choice of spouse erroneous? Could you be influenced by bad company? Could they scheme to take your place?
When you get divorced or separated, who really benefits?
305. Social Activities
Do you partake in social activities? Do you encourage the family, to? From sporting events to parties. From marriages to naming ceremonies. From graduation celebrations to funerals. And school and office events etc. Do you attend them? Do you participate? Are you sociable? Or are you introvert? Is anyone an island? Or we were made to co-exist? If you don’t attend theirs, are they likely to attend yours? Is it a case of reaping as you sow? Or it doesn’t matter, time will take its toll.
306. If Your Parent Disapproves Of Your Spouse
If your parent disapproves of your spouse, will you go ahead and marry? Will you watch time heal any differences, or will you weather the storm? Who will you side with, when it reaches the brink? Will you avoid any battles, and search for another? Or is your choice final, they’ll accept or reject. What about the wider impact, on other stakeholders? Could it make or break the bigger family units?
Or will you look to religion, to find the right solution?
307. Do You Poison The Mind Of Your Children?
If you don’t get along with family or friends, do you use you children as shields? Do you poison their minds in unethical ways? Do you say defamatory words against the foes? Do you slander and backbite them? Leveraging on the innocence of the children? Do you create negative thoughts in your children’s mind? Not minding the consequences of tomorrow? Do you manage your conflict effectively? Leaving the children out of it? Do you protect the children all the same? Keeping them away from any trouble.
308. Why Do You Choose Divorce?
Why do you choose to divorce, what’s your reason? Did you make the wrong choice, or circumstances have changed? Are you feeling pressure, difficult to sustain? Is it for selfish reasons, or we won’t understand? Have you compromised your body and your faith? Have you been unfaithful, pretending to be great? Is that divorce for good or for bad? Time alone could tell, whether right or wrong.
309. Do You Reflect?
As you journey through marriage, do you create time and space for reflection? Do you ponder on your actions and decisions? Do you ponder on what could be better? Do you ponder on the present and future? Do you reflect on the past? Do you ponder on possible outcomes, based on today’s decisions? Do you reflect on other marriages? Learning best practices? Do you also learn from pitfalls? That you may avoid them? Is life one big road, with lots to learn from? Are you intentional in learning, to perfect your marriage? Do you make the best of what you have? Or do you always crave for more?
May be I should stop here, with lots for you to ponder.
310. God parents
In one or two faiths, the concept of God-parents is practiced. It’s the practice of the parents choosing trusted others to parent their children, in case of illness or death. The process is probably reciprocal. It’s a sort of insurance, to protect the children. The contract may be written or verbal. It could also be formal or informal.
Thank you very much for your time.
This is Jack Lookman signing off. Ire o (I wish you blessings)
Ire kabiti (I wish you loads of blessings).
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